So I have friends who believe I’m a womanizer. I disagree… but I do have a lot of female friends. And there’s something I’ve been thinking of in regards to these friends that I have to talk about.
So being the age I am, I understand the natural impulse that there is to find a date. Almost everyone I know wants to find a boyfriend/girlfriend. And truly, this area is not my speciality, but I do notice a few things. These impulses are much harder to quell or satisfy when you’re a Christian because the bible limits the number of partners we’re allowed to have:
2 Corinthians 6:14 a “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.”
The aim of the verse however isn’t to limit, but to guide. Its sound advice and I’ve seen countless times people who tried relationships that failed because they weren’t guided by these principles. I say “guided” because I don’t think just being a believer qualifies someone to be your boyfriend/girlfriend. They should be making you love God more or forget it.
So here’s why I’m writing this to the ladies in Christ. I understand the huge deficiency that our world is facing of Godly men because I see it all around me. Even for me, it is hard to find a man I can share my love for God with. That shows how much harder it is for you to find a man who deserves you; yes: “deserves you” because it is only when they can love God enough that they can love you enough.
So… don’t settle. Don’t date any random guy because the current statistics I see show that a lot of the random’s are not worth it. Wait for the person God has planned. He will definitely come.
Two disclaimers: I’m not saying look for perfection. It only existed once. But look for someone who is willing and trying to get there and isn’t going to drag you down when you tag along.
I’m not saying I’m perfect. One reason I’ve never been able to ask anyone out is because they don’t deserve me. At least not till God, who has began this good work in preparing me for some lovely lady in Christ, brings it to completion. (Philippians 1:16 - heavily paraphrased)
So in the mean time ladies… prepare yourself to be the best of Proverbs 31 woman you can be, and wait for that Godly man.
And men… please lets start manning up to become who God desires for our future wives.
I pray for the grace to walk… in royal steps…
”My nature became so sensitized that I could lay my hands on any man or woman and tell what organ was diseased and to what extent” “Lake tested this new wonder by going to hospitals and touching patients to determine what their ailments were. And even to make it more challenging, most of them were cases that even the physicians could not diagnose” (John G. Lake: His Life His Sermons, His Boldness of Faith, Kenneth Copeland Publications, 1995, p. xxi
Wow!
(inspired by sermon The Mask must Go)- 01/01/2013
The church is not a stage for play productions
Not a place for hiding actions
Not a black market for surreptitious transactions
Church, when you and I
Refuse to be real in the presence of the Most High
Our Elshaddai
When we kill boldness , choose to be shy
Zip up our lips while inside we die
Die from the sting of masturbation, prostitution, homosexuality, we lie
Steal, destroy, gossip,
Live prayerless, wordless, fruitless
We create an awful mess and live with unnecessary stress
When we turn church service into a masquerade ball
And refuse to speak up but slowly we fall
Fall deeply within but on the outside we stand tall
Afraid to tell the world of our deepest struggles and sins
Afraid of the stabbing stares of confrontation
And the crumbling image of perfection
But if we were all perfect then why did Christ bleed?
Why did He heed
To the call of the Father to beget a new breed?
A seed
Planted by the water side that yields fruits in its season
The blood should give you more reason
To speak up, spit it all out, dare to share your testimony
And that is how WE overcome
I said WE not YOU
WE overcome by the blood and the word of our testimony
The church is not a stage for play productions
Not a place for hiding actions
Not a black market for surreptitious transactions
Most of us have refused to take the task
To remove the pretence mask
So instead we slowly die
Behind closed doors and thick masks we cry
And yeah we tire
Because multi-Masking is soul-tasking
Wasting time being who you are not
Lessens God’s love to naught
Wasting time in the bondage of sin within
Reduces our chances to win
Because your silence is selfishness
Holding on to your mask may be the most self-seeking thing to do
What if you hold the key to someone’s breakthrough?
What if a piece of someone’s salvation puzzle was embedded in your story?
You see it’s time for the church to start being real
Let’s dig deep into issues unspoken
Make the silence broken
And allow God to give us the victory token
So today I humbly ask
That you let go off the thick mask
Of sin that you have long been hiding behind
And it only begins with a change of heart and mind
Knowing that in the church you’ll find
A greater power that overlooks your sinful kind
And focuses on great healing, not just physical but spiritual
Come to the altar unafraid to be spoken or unmasked because
The church is not a stage for play productions
Not a place for hiding actions
Not a black market for surreptitious transactions
A friend wrote this for unspoken some time ago. It’s brilliant and I hope it speaks volumes to someone as it does me
Following directly from my previous post, here’s a post:
I learn a lot about that scandal that is love and grace. God’s love blows my mind so much even in the times I get it the least. And I stumble upon this verse this morning:
Ephesians 3:16- 19 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
It’s the perfect timing for this word. In fact, ‘always’ is the perfect timing for this verse. I take this prater to heart that the Spirit strengthen me to grasp how amazing his love is. Because in the end, all that matters is his love: how wide, how long, how high and how deep his love is. I’ve learnt that the more we understand this love, the more we are filled with the fullness of God. Frankly, that’s all we are striving for. And the way to get there, is to understand this love.
I pray that God gives us this His Spirit that opens our eyes to this indescribable love.
I’m going to return to blogging: writing full posts on the things God is teaching me.
I left because I wasn’t ready to be teaching people things I hadn’t learnt. A few months down the line, I am no different. But writing does help. I’m reminding myself of what I need to do and somebody out there is getting helped.
I will keep doing unspoken as much as I get an audience. I will share what I can on each of the submissions I receive because I realize how much my own brokenness has taught me even through I may not be fully learned.
Also, In Royal Steps has always been a story of love and grace. The love is what keeps me here, the grace is what allows me to be here. So I will remain and I will tell my story. I will try and let you see, as much as my unspokenness will allow, how love and grace have and continue to mould a wretch like me.
Hopefully i still have people willing to tag along for the ride. Its one hellish ride but I’m still confident in God’s word that in the end… we win.
Once again, I pray for grace that we may all walk… in royal steps…
My journey through the faith, although it never ends, is a little longer than than I anticipated. Maybe anticipating was the problem.
There comes a time when everyone must question their faith. For me, why is not the question. But Lord knows I need to know “How?”
My God is “Love”
My “God” is Love
My, God is Love!
My God is Love!
